Being Single Is Not a Failure

In recent decades, social trends have changed significantly. Gone are the days when couples in love would get married right after high school and have their first child within a year. While singles in their thirties used to be labeled as “weird,” today, few people stop to think about single people in their thirties. Young people travel, build careers, and deal with housing and mortgages. The time when couples decide to settle down together is naturally postponed until later in life. Being single after thirty is not a failure—just a different timing that says nothing about you or your qualities.

Still, every now and then someone will make an unpleasant remark or ask an insensitive question—most often it’s parents, grandparents, or friends who have “already done it all.” Even though these remarks usually stem from good intentions or the habits of another generation, for a single person they can be painful, frustrating, and above all, unnecessary.

“And you still don’t have anyone?”

“How can such a nice person still be single? Aren’t you afraid of being alone? So, when is the wedding?” If people around you ask you unpleasant questions and comments, try to respond with a sense of perspective.

Settle the other person down with a witty response:

“When it comes, it comes – I’m currently collecting stories for my wedding speech.”

“Don’t worry, if I get married at 40, at least I’ll remember it more.”

Humor helps lighten the mood without having to engage in an awkward exchange.

Set firm boundaries:

“Thanks for your interest, but this is a private matter.”

“These questions are a bit uncomfortable. Let’s talk about something else.”

People often don’t realize they’re hitting on your sensitive spot—responses like this can tactfully remind them.

Forget the passive approach

Have you exhausted almost all the possibilities of getting to know someone? Have you tried to spread the word among friends, things are going nowhere at work, pubs and bars do not appeal to you? Is there any point in following the old saying “sit in the corner like a doll, if you are good, they will find you”?

If you are eager for a change, start taking action. The chances that your soul mate will approach you in the coffee queue are about as likely as winning the lottery. Stop waiting for a miracle and prepare yourself for the fact that relationships require activity and effort.

What about a dating profile?

In the age of online dating, meeting new people is easier than ever before – so it’s no wonder that most Czechs meet people online. Dating apps offer a wealth of options for meeting people without having to leave the comfort of your own home. If you’ve tried dating on online dating sites, you probably already know that online dating has a few BUTs:

Fake profiles – Many users create profiles in which they deliberately misrepresent their appearance, lifestyle or intentions. This can lead to people who won’t play fair with you.

Superficial communication – Communication via messages is often abrupt, unnatural and superficial. After a few messages are exchanged, it often fades into oblivion.

Exaggerated expectations – Online dating often leads to false ideas that someone better, prettier, smarter is waiting around the corner… This can lead to over-choosing and a feeling of dissatisfaction if the other person does not meet your ideals.

Frustration and burnout – Long waits for a response, ghosting, vulgar or aggressive communication, sexual advances, sexist remarks… Instead of a pleasant experience, online dating can bring more stress and anxiety. Ultimately, it can discourage you from trying to meet again.

Security risks – Although most dating sites pay attention to security, there is still a risk of meeting people with bad intentions. Think about your safety, do not share your personal information with anyone, and if you arrange a date, always choose safe public places.

Although online dating has its risks, your online dating profile will increase your chances of a successful meeting.

Open yourself to new possibilities

If you don't want to take unnecessary risks in the online world, try speed dating. If you believe that real acquaintances don't happen online, but face to face, speed dating will be a great choice for you! Unlike endless scrolling through apps, you can meet several interesting faces in person in one evening. Speed dating is also fun, informal and effective - in a few minutes you will find out if any of the counterparts want to see you again. If you would like to try speed dating, just book the date of your date.

Positive thinking can work wonders

Whether you try online dating, speed dating or bet on controlling fate or the coincidences of everyday life, don't forget one important thing - positive thinking. Even if it sometimes seems that finding a relationship is a long shot, don't throw a pebble in the sand. Don't let the comments of those around you, or any setbacks or rejections, get you down. Don't give up hope that you'll meet someone you'll get along with.
Love can't be planned, but you can go out and meet it. Be open, be open to new opportunities, and believe that the right person will come along—maybe when you least expect it.