Mingles as a modern trend

The name mingle was created by combining the words "single" and "married". Officially, mingles are couples in a relationship, but their lifestyle is more reminiscent of "singles". On the one hand, mingles enjoy single life and the freedom it offers, on the other hand, they also benefit from the advantages of a partnership.

Mingles couples live separately, do not share a common household or finances and are not dependent on each other in any way. They freely decide when to spend time together and when to spend time separately. While in a traditional couple, the relationship develops towards living together and commitments, mingles prefer independence and freedom. The mingle relationship model is chosen by singles, divorcees, and even some married people.

Mingles versus friendships with benefits

At first glance, mingles may seem like friendships with benefits. However, in reality, they are significantly different. While friends with benefits are more like friends who mainly enjoy casual sex together, mingles experience a romantic relationship together in addition to sex - but without traditional commitments and living together.

Often, the mingles life is chosen by young people who do not want to commit yet, or seniors who no longer want to adapt to life as a couple and move together. It can also be an alternative for people after a difficult breakup or divorce who are not ready for a new relationship with all the commitments and demands.

Advantages of a mingles relationship

The mingles model is chosen by people who do not want to make any compromises in their relationships and are not attracted by the everyday partner stereotype. In life, they focus primarily on their dreams and goals and at the same time do not want to give up on their partner relationships. Mingles can do everything that traditional couples do. They have common hobbies and friends, go on dates, go on vacations together, enjoy sex and intimacy, and are interested in each other - all to a degree that suits both of them.

They also have a different view of traditional partner commitments - they usually do not plan to get married, start a family, or grow old side by side. Whenever the mingle relationship stops suiting them, they can switch to reverse gear. Because they do not share a common household, they avoid the everyday stereotype and "submarine sickness". They can take a break from each other whenever they feel like meeting. Because everyone takes care of their own household, they do not have to argue about who will take out the trash or who will wash the dishes after dinner.

Disadvantages of a mingle relationship

In difficult times, such as illness, financial difficulties or problems in their personal lives, a mingle relationship may lack the support provided by a traditional partnership. A relationship without living together can over time cause feelings of alienation and a lack of emotional connection. Another disadvantage is the higher costs - while in a relationship with a traditional shared household, the couple shares the costs, mingles pay for the expenses of two households.

In addition, it may be a matter of time before one of the partners desires a full-fledged relationship with shared housing and a shared future - for example, in the form of starting a family. If a mingle couple cannot agree on the form of the relationship, arguments, regrets and a breakup ensue. On the other hand, there are also mingle couples who ultimately decide to move in, start a family and live a normal family life.
All or nothing?

Are you considering whether a mingle relationship is the right decision for you? Try to answer these questions: I don't want a relationship in the classic sense? Do I want a relationship rather than a friendship with benefits? Do I not want to share a household with my partner? Do I want to maintain freedom and flexibility in my relationship? If your answers are yes, mingles may be the solution for you to not lose your freedom and still experience a fulfilling relationship with your partner.

On the other hand, if your relationship motto is “all or nothing” and you dream of a partnership with everything and everything, the mingles model would be full of compromises and unfulfilled expectations for you. It is important that you and your partner agree on the form of your relationship and your ideas about the future. If you each have a different idea, do not waste precious time unnecessarily.

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