A breakup is one of the most difficult moments in life. It is accompanied by sadness, a feeling of loneliness or anxiety about losing a loved one. Sometimes it is difficult to accept that a relationship has ended. Do you sometimes have thoughts of getting back together with your ex? Are you wondering how to behave after a breakup? Or are you both attracted to friends with benefits? Find out when to give a relationship a second chance and how to get it back.
When is it worth giving a relationship a second chance?
Almost everyone makes a decision in life that they later regret. In retrospect, you may realize that breaking up with your ex was a mistake. Sometimes you can fix your mistakes, or at least try to fix them. Your relationship deserves another chance if…
…was the breakup a hasty decision
Did you break up because of a petty argument, communication difficulties, or an argument? Do you see the breakup as a hasty decision in retrospect? If you know that you have learned from your previous mistakes and believe that the relationship is still worth working on, it makes sense to try to get your ex back.
…you still love each other
If you still have strong feelings for your ex and you feel that your ex feels the same way, you can try to start over. But consider carefully whether your relationship has a future and whether you share common values and goals in life. Love is very important in a relationship, but if there is nothing connecting you except love, the relationship usually has no future.
Are you planning a future together? Strong relationships have a clear common direction and goals
…you are willing to work on each other
We all have our strengths and weaknesses, and sometimes we all screw up in our relationships. That’s why self-reflection is important. Are you both willing to work on your weaknesses and communication? Then you can give the relationship another chance.
When should you not try to rebuild a relationship?
Over time, many people tend to forget negative experiences, or downplay them and remember the good. Loneliness can often be the reason behind the desire to get your ex back. Feelings of loneliness can be the reason why you idealize your ex and your relationship too much in your memories. Don’t get back with your ex if…
…your relationship was toxic
If your ex was manipulative, abusive, repeatedly emotionally or physically hurt you, or cheated on you, they don’t deserve another chance. It’s better to end toxic relationships for good. It would probably only be a matter of time before similar patterns of behavior would start to repeat themselves. Don't hurt yourself by reliving unpleasant situations and don't waste precious time.
...did you break up because of irreconcilable differences
Were you unable to agree on major life decisions and a future together? Was it impossible to find a compromise on some issues? Major value disagreements, such as differing views on children, career, or lifestyle, usually don't change. Continuing the relationship would likely only lead to more conflict.
...left you for someone else
If your ex-partner decided to be with someone else, he or she has probably already invested his or her feelings and energy elsewhere. Would you be able to forgive such a betrayal? Forgiveness is hard and forgetting is even harder. Returning to a relationship marked by infidelity is usually unnecessary suffering.
How to get your ex back?
Be open and honest
Communicating with your ex-partner may not be easy if the breakup was accompanied by arguments and you didn't part ways on good terms. First of all, try to reach out to your ex-partner, text them or call them and ask for a meeting. Try not to seem desperate and don't push things. Be honest and say straight out that you would like to give your relationship a second chance. You can also mention the reasons why you want to renew the relationship - you realized your mistakes, you rushed the breakup, you want to prevent the family from breaking up, or you still love your ex-partner and still see a future together... However, be respectful if your ex doesn't want to meet up with you.
Don't forget to reflect
If your ex agrees to a meeting, think about what changes you are willing to make to save the relationship before the meeting. Even if you are determined to fight for the relationship, be prepared for possible rejection. Even if you feel like you have changed or are willing to change, your ex may not feel the same way. Respect their decision and don't pressure them, as this will only add fuel to the fire and make things worse.
Look for ways to start over and do better
If, on the other hand, trying to fix the relationship is your shared desire, communication is key. Talk about your needs and what you expect from the relationship and your future together. Don't bring up old grievances or bring up painful memories. Focus primarily on how to start over and do better. Instead of blaming and blaming, which can lead to unpleasant arguments, try describing the situations in your relationship that trigger negative emotions:
Reproach: “You prioritize hobbies and friends and never make time for me.”
Description of the situation: “When we spend so little time together, I feel lonely. It would help if we spent at least one day a week together.”
Reproach: “You always leave everything up to me and never do anything at home.”
Description of the situation: “When I have to clean, cook, and take care of the children every day, I feel tired and irritable. It would help if we divided up some of the household chores.”
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Don’t get hung up on just one solution
Does your ex-partner not want to give you another chance? Or do you realize that you have been in a toxic relationship with a toxic partner? Then it is time to move on in life. If you are suffering from loneliness and longing for your ex, have fun, visit new places and make new contacts.
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