The right questions will increase your chances of success

Tap on common topics, arouse sympathy and interest so that the other person wants to see you again - that's exactly what it's all about! 5 to 10 minutes of time is usually enough to see if you have something to say and if there's a spark. The right questions will help to reveal common interests, indicate values and reveal a sense of humor.
On the other hand, an inappropriate question can cause awkward silence, a feeling of shame and other negative emotions. If you like the other person, it would be a shame to ruin the chance of another date by tactless probing. The first impression and feeling that you leave in your other person usually decide whether you will see each other again.

Remember, you’re not in an interrogation

Are you used to firing one question after another at a cadence reminiscent of machine gun fire? Slow down and give your partner some space too. Speed dating is neither an interrogation nor an interview. It’s a short meeting between two people who want to see if they’re on the same wavelength.
Questions should feel casual and natural – ideally as part of a two-way conversation, not a list of points to check off. It’s equally important to listen carefully and respond to what your partner is saying. This will show that you care not only about the information, but also about the connection between you. You won’t recognize true interest by how many questions you manage to ask, but by how well you can listen and follow up on the answers.

Who is prepared, is not caught off guard

Once you find yourself in the middle of a conversation, you probably won't have time to think about what you want to ask. So prepare a few questions in advance and feel free to write them down. Preparation will help you overcome the initial nervousness and keep the conversation flowing. Before the speed dating itself, you can go through the "date questions" and remind yourself of what you would like to know the answer to.

First date questions that will get the conversation going:

Personal Interests and Hobbies

The topic of shared hobbies and interests is perfect for speed dating and first dates. It will tell you how your partner spends their free time, whether they are active or passive, and what they enjoy.

• “What do you like to do in your free time?”
• “What is your favorite way to relax?”
• “What kind of music do you listen to? What movie have you been watching lately?”

Values and Life Goals

The topic of values and life goals will reveal whether you are heading in the same direction in life or whether you are missing each other in your plans and goals. However, the questions should not be too personal or intimate so as not to embarrass your partner.

• "Do you have a dream you want to achieve in life?"
• "What is most important to you in a relationship?"
• "If you had unlimited possibilities, what would you do?"

Questions with an idea

Original and playful questions can be a great choice if you want to surprise your partner, arouse sympathy and put a smile on their face.

• "If you could have dinner with anyone in the world, who would you choose?"
• "What's been entertaining you lately?"

Questions to Avoid

Some topics are not appropriate for a first date, especially for a short meeting like speed dating. The questions can have a negative impact, causing embarrassment, shame, or anger.

Too personal questions

• “Why are you still single?”
• “How many partners have you had?”
• “How many children do you want to have?”

Finance and Property

• “How much do you earn?”
• “What kind of car do you have?”
• “Do you own an apartment or house?”

Politics and Religion

• “What do you think of the current government?”
• “Are you religious?”

Negative Topics

• “Why didn’t your last relationship work out?”
• “Why do you use a dating site?”

Remember that speed dating is supposed to be a fun experience – so avoid topics that can make the conversation difficult or uncomfortable, or topics that are too deep that require a longer conversation for your partner to sufficiently elaborate and explain. As you get to know each other better, you will have plenty of opportunities to ask anything that interests you.

Have fun and be yourself

Remember that you are going to speed dating primarily to have fun and open up to new possibilities. Don't strive for perfection or to please everyone. Be natural, authentic and genuine. And if it doesn't work out? No problem! That's part of dating.

Try it out live

You have your speed dating questions - now you just need to take a small step. Cast your worries aside and come and try it out live. Book a speed dating appointment and use one of the recommended questions, or come up with your own. Observe what works and let your intuition guide you. Who knows - maybe you will meet your soulmate at speed dating.