First date or speed dating - what next? Tips on how to start a conversation and arrange a second date.

Don’t wait too long

Don’t wait too long after your first date or speed dating. It’s ideal to text or call within two days at the latest. You don’t have to play any games like “I’ll wait three days so it doesn’t seem like I’m really interested.” Also, forget about impersonal messages and clichés right away, such as: “Hello, how are you? What are you doing?”

The first message should be short, original and, if possible, personal. Remembering a specific moment from your first meeting is an ideal way to follow up. Did you talk about a favorite movie, book, sport or maybe travel? Bring it up. This will show that you really listened and that you’re interested. Also, thank them for a great date and suggest another meeting: “Hi, I’m so glad we met at speed dating. I enjoyed talking about your travels around the US. How about we continue over coffee or a glass of wine?”
Wait patiently for your partner’s response. Everyone needs their time – some are busier, some less so, some may need more time to think about what to say to your message. A taboo is definitely bombarding with text messages: “Why aren’t you texting back? I’m waiting for a response, write!” Pressure has the exact opposite effect – it will discourage your new acquaintance from further communication. And what if the response doesn’t arrive at all? Take it in stride. That’s also part of dating.
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Forget about stereotypes

Who invites you on a second date? The times when it was expected that a man had to text first and a woman had to wait patiently are fortunately a thing of the past. The first step can be taken by the one who feels ready – regardless of gender. If you liked your partner, there’s no reason to hesitate and cling to outdated stereotypes.

Read the signals

During your first messages and communication, try to be sensitive to the other person's reactions. Does he/she respond quickly and in a positive tone? Does he/she mention another meeting? All of these indicate that the interest is mutual. Brief and distant responses can, on the other hand, be a sign of indecision or disinterest. If you sense aloofness from the communication, let the conversation flow freely and don't "push the saw". If the other person shows no interest, respect that. A forced date is usually not a good start.

Find a balance

Have you already exchanged a few texts and are now wondering how often to write or call your partner at the beginning of the dating process? If you write or call too often, you can overwhelm your new acquaintance and discourage further communication. If you don't call at all, they may interpret this as disinterest. The first week after speed dating or the first date, short texts or one phone call during which you arrange another date are optimal. You don't have to share what you're doing or repeat every day how much you're looking forward to the next meeting.

Finally, don't forget one important thing - no matter how hard you try, sometimes it just doesn't work out. You may find that you have different expectations, lifestyles, opinions and ideas about the future, or maybe there's no chemistry between you. However, this doesn't mean that it's your fault. If it didn't work out, don't give up and try to think positively. No date or speed dating is a waste of time - every meeting moves you forward and helps you find out who you're really looking for. The important thing is not to take rejection personally and move on.

Failure or disappointment is simply part of dating. Stay open to new possibilities and keep getting to know each other - the wise saying goes that love often comes when you least expect it.
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