Proposal: How to get her to say yes?

How to propose without clichés and awkwardness?

Right place and time

Don't ask a woman for her hand in marriage if you're having an argument, you're dealing with a major dispute, or you're going through a difficult and stressful period. A joyful event should not be marred by negative emotions.

Just as important as the right timing is the place where you kneel in front of your chosen one. Women usually prefer romantic places to which they have pleasant memories. It could be where you first met or where you went on your first date. Public places where you won't be alone are not always a good choice. Maybe your chosen one doesn't care about the prying eyes of the public. If you are not sure about the venue, try discreetly asking the bride-to-be's friends or family. However, be careful that the surprise is not revealed and the bride does not find out about your plans.

Appropriate words

What to say when asking for your hand when you kneel in front of a woman with a ring in your hand? Talk about how you feel about her and why you want to marry her. You can also mention significant moments in your relationship or plans for the future. If you can't stand long speeches, a plain and simple: "Will you marry me" will suffice?

Avoid inauthentic words and clichés when proposing – don't copy romantic movie quotes, recite poems or memorize speeches from the internet. Your words wouldn't sound authentic, and what if you forgot some passages and stammered from memory. Even if you're nervous, don't slip into inappropriate jokes and innuendos that would spoil the romantic atmosphere.

How not to step aside?

A ring in the food
A ring hidden in a cake or a glass of champagne is perfect for movie screens. In fact, food-smeared jewelry isn't romantic or tasteful at all. Let alone if the bride-to-be accidentally eats it or breaks a tooth on it.

Inappropriate place
If you both don't dream of getting engaged in, say, a football stadium, slow down on originality and don't choose public places for your hand proposal, where you will be closely watched by dozens of pairs of eyes. You will feel safer and more confident in your privacy.

Unasked question
In a fit of nervousness or after a long speech, a man sometimes forgets to ask: "Will you marry me"? In this way, the woman does not get the opportunity to react and express herself, or in the best case, she expresses herself, but does not know what to do.

Intoxication
Never ask a woman to marry you if you have taken over. You can take a shot for courage, but nothing should be overdone. If you kneel down drunk in front of a woman, she may reject you or not take you seriously. It may also happen that you will have the entire engagement shrouded in an alcoholic fog, or you will not remember it at all. Don't even ask for her hand in marriage if your chosen one is under the influence of alcohol.

A request out of obligation
Forget phrases like: "If we're expecting a child, will you marry me?" Choose a ring when you want to get married…” If you're asking a woman to marry you just because it's expected of you, then either don't do it, or take care.

How to deal with rejection if he says "NO"?

Even if you hope for a positive answer, it may happen that the woman rejects you. Rejected people feel sadness, frustration, perhaps even anger, anxiety, or a sense of failure. Over time, the human brain has evolved to reject strong emotions. Don't take rejection personally, if you didn't treat the woman badly, the answer "no" doesn't say anything bad about you.

Maybe your partner doesn't feel like taking such a serious step in her life yet, she has other plans, or you're not the right one for her. The error can also be in the correct timing or communication with each other. Either way, it's not the end of the world, it didn't work out now, it will work out later. They say that everything bad is good for something. Maybe something better awaits you in the future, or you should learn from the situation so you don't repeat the same mistakes over and over again.

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How to refuse a girl who wants marriage?

Getting married is one of the biggest decisions you will make in your life. Think about it when you're deciding whether to propose to a woman, or when you're discussing marriage and marriage together. What to do if you are not sure about getting married, or simply don't want to get married at all? How to refuse a girl who sees you as a future husband?

If you don't feel like getting married yet, or if you don't want to get married in the future, be honest. State your reasons sensitively and, if possible, choose words that will not unnecessarily offend or hurt the woman. If you just need to clarify your feelings and priorities, you can suggest that you talk about marriage again in maybe a year. If you know for sure that marriage is not for you, or you feel that your partner is not the right one, do not lead her by the nose and tell the truth.