A solution to the partnership crisis? Start with yourself first

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Partner crisis is a natural part of all relationships. Every relationship has to face many challenges and crises that will test its strength and stability. How to solve problems and disagreements so that your loving bond can overcome many storms and move you forward in your relationship?

Crises do not escape even the strongest relationships

The beginnings of a relationship are usually beautiful, but it is only a matter of time before the first crisis comes.
When shared romantic moments and admiration for your partner suddenly disappear, it does not necessarily mean the end of the relationship.

The triggers for a relationship or marriage crisis can be different - from difficulties in communication to financial difficulties, lack of time spent together, infidelity, a threesome relationship, sexual discord, to various life changes, such as the birth of a child, moving, changing jobs or the departure of adult children from home. How to improve a relationship that is going through a crisis? And how to deal with estrangement in marriage?

Communicate and listen to each other

A partner crisis can strengthen and strengthen your relationship. However, the basis of solving every problem in a relationship is honest, open and respectful communication. Listen, try to understand the emotions of your counterpart and how he experiences your disagreements. Ask what he needs to feel good about the relationship. Also openly communicate your needs, feelings and perspective to your partner. Although it is not always easy, try to avoid blame, blame and manipulation. Try to find a common solution to the situation or a compromise that satisfies both parties. In satisfied and functional relationships, there are no winners and losers, but two equal partners who can find mutual agreement.

You start with yourself

Forget about complaints, arguments and accusations. All this is just adding fuel to the fire. Start with small changes in yourself. Limit criticism, praise and appreciate your partner, try to create a pleasant atmosphere at home and do not look for unnecessary conflicts. When you start to change, the people around you start to change too.

Invest time in the relationship

Couples who have overcome more than one crisis know that every relationship has to be worked on. A relationship is like a flower – it needs attention, time and regular care to grow and grow. Behind every sigh of "I don't like the relationship... I'm in a relationship but it's missing the juice... we broke up and I miss you..." is usually a long-term neglect of the partner or failure to solve problems. Now you are one team, so you can no longer kick for yourself.

Don't be afraid to open relationship issues and topics. When a relationship goes cold, it's a warning sign that you shouldn't ignore. Take an interest in each other, show love, affection, understanding and support. Equally important is the time spent together. Try to find interests and activities that you can enjoy together. Turn off the TV, put down your cell phone, and feel each other. All of this promotes mutual bonding and intimacy.

If you have children and you are constantly in a carousel - work, children, household - arrange regular babysitting. If you don't have grandma or grandpa available, arrange with friends or pay a babysitter and go on a date.

Don't be afraid to seek help

If you feel that the estrangement between you and your partner is so deep that you can hardly find a common language, do not hesitate to seek the help of a professional. Whether marriage counseling, relationship coach or therapist. An unbiased expert will offer a fresh perspective on the friction areas in your relationship. At the same time, it will provide you with space for a deeper understanding of the problems, outline possible solutions and offer psychological support.

Divorce is a last resort

If your girlfriend or boyfriend refuses to solve problems, or you can't restore mutual bond and trust despite your best efforts, consider whether you want to continue the relationship. Long-term tension, suffocating atmosphere, mutual discord and dissatisfaction can have an impact on your psyche, health and satisfaction with life. Do you feel like you've done everything you can to fix the relationship, but you've reached a dead end where the relationship is taking more than it's giving? Do you feel that you would be better off without your partner? In that case, separation or divorce may be the best solution.

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Stand up for yourself

Many unhappy couples stay together even though the relationship has no future. The reason is often the fear of the reactions of those around you or the fear of being alone. Feelings of loneliness are often greater in a dysfunctional relationship than after a breakup. Even if the first months after a separation or divorce are really difficult, a new life stage and a new perspective await you. You have a chance to start again and better. Don't miss your chance.

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Autor: Jakub Žwak